Life is Beachy

It’s been a minute since I last posted. So much has changed in my life over the past year. In a good way!

I am living a big chunk of my vision for my life.

Over the last year, my husband and I sold our home of more than 30 years and moved from the suburbs to the beach; I had shoulder surgery to restore full range and strength to my dominant arm; I helped dozens of women rekindle their flailing marriages; I helped dozens of women reach new heights of success in business, health, personal fulfillment and joy; I taught 20 women how to play Mah Jongg; I taught 2 people how to knit; We traveled to France, Italy, and Japan; I planned for and walked my daughter down the wedding aisle; we bought a condo in Chicago so we could have extended visits with our daughter and son(inlove); I received a Leadership Award from Hadassah.

I am blessed! I dreamt for all of this amazingness in my life!

People often tell me how lucky I am. It’s true! I am lucky but not for the reason you think.

My amazing life did not happen by chance or luck or wishing. It happened because I made a decision for my goals and dreams and I took consistent, intentional action steps towards them.

The fact that I saved and transformed my marriage ten years ago from disconnection and the verge of divorce, to now living on the beach in a close quarters apartment, running a business, having the time freedom and money freedom to travel, teach, volunteer, doing what I want, is not luck at all.

I used to think the idea of manifesting anything was hogwash. I didn’t fully get it but when I swapped in the word "intention"  it made all the difference.

I go through an intentional process to create success and I repeat the process over and over again as I want to expand or create new or better results and experiences in my life.

This is something anyone can have and do! It's not special just to me. You can have and do it too!

The problem is that most women don't believe they can; don't know where to start; don't know how to start, don't believe they are worth the investment in themselves and their own fulfillment.

I used to have that inner struggle too. It held me back for SO long! And it nearly destroyed my marriage but that’s a story for another day. For now, just focus on this question I have for you.

My question to you is what would you love to achieve or have or do or be if you were guaranteed to succeed?

Close your eyes and get a picture in your mind of yourself living that idyllic life.

Notice the thoughts rising up that are in the way...those thoughts telling you why it is not possible, not a good time, not for you...

Those thoughts are the voice of doubt, fear, and the status quo trying to keep everything as is even while there is another voice inside you wanting something more or different.

I used to get stuck there believing my husband and I had to like the same things, want the same things in order for the marriage to thrive. It’s not true.  

I thought I had to prioritize what he wanted and liked. Not true.

Once I focused on my own inner happiness, incredible things began to happen. I couldn’t believe it. I had caused myself so much unnecessary emotional turmoil over the years! 

You know what they say, Hindsight is 20:20. Now that I know better, I do better! 

My husband and I are like heads and tails of a coin. My husband is a lake person. Water skiing, biking. I am an ocean person; reading, walking. 

Living at the beach is MY dream; not his. He likes seeing me happy. Not to say that he isn’t happy here because he says he is.

If you would have told me twelve years ago that I needed to focus more on myself to save, heal, and improve my relationship, I would have told you you were crazy so I totally get it when women express hesitancy when I say it to them. 

But there is a system for success, skills to rekindle a relationship even without your husband actively participating and it can be easy.

When you intentionally decide to lean into your willingness to take action in service of your own dream, your marriage, doors you didn't even know existed suddenly open.

I am holding the door open for you.

Let's turn up the volume of the voice of your goals. Let's intentionally create your dream life! Book your free Relationship Clarity Call HERE